5 Tips for Disclosing Your Past to Your Present Lover

If you’re a single adult in the dating world, chances are that you have a dating past. Regardless of how plain or colorful your dating history is, disclosing it to your current lover can be a sensitive issue. Here are some simple tips and guidelines to make the process easier.

Tip #1 – Timing is Everything

When it comes to disclosing your past to your current lover timing can play a very large role. At MatchEdge, one of the most popular online dating sites, they’ve found that certain things are more import to disclose sooner than others.

For example, if you’re divorced or separated that’s something you want to bring up early on. It doesn’t have to be the first date, but a good rule of thumb would be to disclose that sort of information by the third date.

On the other hand, if you’ve never been married but have had several sexual partners, that’s probably something you want to discuss only after you get to know your lover a little better. As they say, “It’s not usually appropriate first date conversation.”

Tip #2 – The Devil is in the Details

Once you have decided that you are ready to disclose your past to your present lover, it’s probably a good idea to spear him/her the details. Usually people don’t really care to hear a detailed explanation of your sexual escapades. A good rule of thumb is to skip all the details unless if you are specifically asked for them.

Tip #3 – A Sensitive Issue

Chances are that if you’re nervous about disclosing your sexual past to your current lover, they are just as anxious to hear about it. It’s important to remember that your current lover may experience feelings of insecurity or jealousy. To help ease your current lover through this, try not to show too much emotion during the discussion. You should probably steer clear of discussing how you felt. Instead, try simply stating what you’ve done.

Tip #4 – Don’t Fall for Traps

If you’re having these types of discussions with your current lover, you should know if they are the jealous type or not. To ward off the green eyed monster, you may want to tread carefully. Once you are done disclosing the information, you want to steer clear of what I call traps. Traps are questions that are innocently disguised but may lead to hurt, anger or jealousy on your partners end. You’ll recognize these traps because the questions will usually be about feelings or thoughts and they will be linked to a person. For example, “Have you done xyz” is a very different question from, “Do you still think about xyz with so-and-so?”

Tip #5 -Reap the Rewards

If you are serious about your current lover, sharing this information will allow them to know you better, while giving you and your lover a stronger bond. At MatchEdge, they’ve found that the relationships that have less secrets between them tend to be stronger than those who keep secrets.

Remember, no one can ever fault you for being honest with them. Regardless of what your sexual past holds, it’s a part of who you are. If your current lover is a keeper, they will be glad that you had enough faith and confidence in them to share such an intimate part of yourself. Good luck and happy sharing!

Hurricanes and Business Presentations

If you’re planning a business presentation or any sales interview with a large company during the hurricane season you may find yourself being postponed and you may want to cancel and reschedule the appointment for the business presentation until everything is back to normal.

This is because the decision-makers and the Board of Directors of the Corporation in which you are giving your sales presentation or business presentation pitch to, will have on their minds many other things that affect their supply chain, sales teams and business outlets, which may have been destroyed during the hurricane or even injury of workers. With all this all their minds the chances of you pulling off a really good presentation and making the sale are much lessened.

During the 2005 Atlantic tropical hurricane season many professionals and sales teams found themselves in a region, which was not interested in anything they had to say unless in fact they were part of the relief and rescue efforts. It is best to reschedule business presentations whether they are about sales or future negotiations until later date after a major catastrophic mother nature event. This is proper business etiquette and the most professional thing to do as well. So, I hope you will consider all this in 2006.

A Helping Guide to Choosing Presents For Men

When it comes to gifts for men, things become a little tougher. Gifts for men have little scope for improvisation as compared to women. But, it does not mean that you cannot find gifts for them, you just need to consider some aspects before you go shopping.

How to choose gifts and presents for men:

First thing you need to consider is his choices, likes and dislikes. It is always a good idea to gift a person of his/ her own choice. So, try to know about his likes and dislikes before choosing any gift. This point becomes important when you are picking up a gift for him.
If he is more interested in sports and different games, then try to guess the sport he is just crazy about. If it is golf, then you can gift him different accessories of golf like golf drivers, ball, golf cap, shoes, golf gear cleaning kit etc.
Mostly boys are crazy about motocross race, so if your friend or boyfriend is also one of them, then you have a wide range of gifts to choose from. You can gift him motocross gear, helmet, shoes, cloths, gloves, goggles, hand bands etc. And you will see how he will adore your gifts and show gratitude for your love and care.
Perfumes are all time hit gift items. So, if it is the birthday of your male friend or his marriage anniversary or you want to congratulate him on his success, gift him a bottle of perfume bottles come in stylish shapes and designs along with various kinds of fragrances.
On this anniversary why not gift him a silver photo frame with a beautiful photo of yours. Photo frames are available in different colours and materials. You can get him a designer or a handmade photo frame for gift. If you want to make your gift personalized, you can make a photo frame instead of buying a one. Handmade photo frames have a personal touch, so are more loving and special
Other gifts can be designer wallets, wrist-lets, watches, key rings, sunglasses and cuff links. In choosing any gift one should keep in mind the taste of the recipient and his choices.