Wedding Presence and Wedding Presents

It’s the summer and your mailbox lately has at least one or two wedding invitations in it a week – if not more. You are flattered that you seemingly are so popular and that your friends, colleagues, even acquaintances are not only thinking of you as they make their wedding list, but actually inviting you. Apparently they think highly enough of you that they want your presence as they celebrate their big day.

While you are delighted to lend your presence at the great occasion, you aren’t so delighted when you think of the cost of all those “presents” that you will have to give to all the newlyweds, and this is in addition to the engagement or shower gifts that you already gave to the future bride. You actually are looking forward to joining in the wedding festivities – but wedding gifts are an extra expense that you really can’t afford these days. It is times like this that you wish that you were a hermit living in a log cabin somewhere in the middle of nowhere with no phone or internet. But you are not and somehow, you have to deal with the fact that a present goes hand in hand with your presence at the wedding ceremony and reception.

But who says a gift has to be something you need to buy, something that needs to be wrapped in paper and tied with a pretty bow – or ripped out of a checkbook? The truth is if you have a particular talent or have the ability to provide a professional service that people pay for, you can offer these instead of going shopping and parting with money that you could use for other important purposes, like paying a bill.

If you are a lawyer, perhaps you can review a legal document, or give a complimentary root canal if you are a dentist (or a free teeth whitening of the young couple’s teeth if they are both cavity free). Perhaps you play the violin beautifully, or have a lovely singing voice. You can offer to perform during the ceremony or reception. That “gift” would surely be more meaningful to the wedding party than another blender or coffeemaker.

If you feel that you have nothing to offer in terms of talent or professional services, think again. There is so much you can do to make life more pleasant for them. Your gift to them can involve spending your time rather than your money – which may even be more valuable to them. To that end you can write a “contract” in which you commit yourself to clean their house top to bottom after a holiday party they host. Or you promise to watch their dog during their week-long vacation. Mowing their lawn an entire month, or shoveling their driveway after three major blizzards is another “gift” you can offer. Looking to the maybe not so distant future, you can promise to babysit for 10 nights – over a period of time of course, not in a row. So don’t be afraid to look in your mailbox. Enjoy the weddings and don’t take out your wallet.

How to Give More Effective Presentations?

Have you ever heard a presentation, a lecture, or an acceptance speech that just left you in awe? Did it make you wonder how they did it? How did they make public speaking seem so easy? Even though it may seem like an innate trait, you can learn to become a better, more powerful public speaker.

Public speaking is a skill that is very important to develop. Regardless of the field you work in, you will be interacting with people or groups. By learning to engage the other party, you will have a better time getting through to them and be able to establish yourself as knowledgeable and powerful.

Whether it is in a small conversation or a large presentation, three key elements of public speaking are:

  1. Message content
  2. Audience connection
  3. Message impact

Here, we will discuss the message impact and message content.

First, let’s understand what message impact means. When you are giving a speech, what do you want your audience to take away?

Often times in a company, you may be asked to give a status update on a project or explain a new idea. When doing so, start by writing down what you want to have happen after you give the speech. How do you want them to act- whether that is to support your initiative or help coordinate future actions?

Use those questions to guide the speech. Word it so that it pushes your message.

The next element that we will discuss is message content.

I guarantee that you have sat through a speech that either has gone over your head or became very boring. Often times, it is very technical speech that you cannot fully process.

Yes, having facts in a speech is good- it shows that you are knowledgeable about your presentation- but a good speech is about more than just numbers and charts and data.

If there is a lot of information that you must get across, try breaking it up into different segments, with an engaging break in the middle, or sending out the data sheets afterwards, via email.

The key here is to not bore the audience and ensure that they can process what they are told.

Learning to become a good public speaking will help you get your message across in a more efficient manner. Use these three elements and see how it changes the way people pay attention to your presentations!

Debt Negotiation – How to Negotiate Your Debt to Less Than You Should Pay

One of the best ways to get out of debt is to owe less money. Wouldn’t that be nice? Wouldn’t it be nice if the credit card companies you owed money to said “that is okay, you can pay us less?” Well guess what? They aren’t going to outright suggest it themselves, but there are ways that you can do a debt negotiation; negotiate until they agree to settle for less money than what you actually owe.

Here are some helpful tips for you to get started:

Seek assistance from a professional debt negotiation company: Yes you can always try and negotiate your debt for less yourself, but this can take time, a lot of speaking to different people, and it can be a major hassle. Moreover, your case worker is likely to have years of experience; they are familiar with debt laws and they have negotiated many similar deals with credit card companies. This tends to produce the best results. Rarely does a debt negotiation company accept anything less than a 40% reduction in debt.

If you want to handle the negotiations yourself, keep these points in mind: You aren’t a professional and you are likely to make many mistakes; it is important to stay calm. It isn’t in your best interest to play the drama card too much or to erupt in a fit of rage. Debt settlement companies are successful because they are convincing and professional, you want to be the same way. If things aren’t going your way, consider playing the bankruptcy card because it does hold a lot of power.

In short, you are likely to see the highest reduction or elimination of your debt when being represented by a professional during the debt negotiation process. To find that professional company or program, let a debt relief network help by visiting their online website.