5 Tips for Disclosing Your Past to Your Present Lover

If you’re a single adult in the dating world, chances are that you have a dating past. Regardless of how plain or colorful your dating history is, disclosing it to your current lover can be a sensitive issue. Here are some simple tips and guidelines to make the process easier.

Tip #1 – Timing is Everything

When it comes to disclosing your past to your current lover timing can play a very large role. At MatchEdge, one of the most popular online dating sites, they’ve found that certain things are more import to disclose sooner than others.

For example, if you’re divorced or separated that’s something you want to bring up early on. It doesn’t have to be the first date, but a good rule of thumb would be to disclose that sort of information by the third date.

On the other hand, if you’ve never been married but have had several sexual partners, that’s probably something you want to discuss only after you get to know your lover a little better. As they say, “It’s not usually appropriate first date conversation.”

Tip #2 – The Devil is in the Details

Once you have decided that you are ready to disclose your past to your present lover, it’s probably a good idea to spear him/her the details. Usually people don’t really care to hear a detailed explanation of your sexual escapades. A good rule of thumb is to skip all the details unless if you are specifically asked for them.

Tip #3 – A Sensitive Issue

Chances are that if you’re nervous about disclosing your sexual past to your current lover, they are just as anxious to hear about it. It’s important to remember that your current lover may experience feelings of insecurity or jealousy. To help ease your current lover through this, try not to show too much emotion during the discussion. You should probably steer clear of discussing how you felt. Instead, try simply stating what you’ve done.

Tip #4 – Don’t Fall for Traps

If you’re having these types of discussions with your current lover, you should know if they are the jealous type or not. To ward off the green eyed monster, you may want to tread carefully. Once you are done disclosing the information, you want to steer clear of what I call traps. Traps are questions that are innocently disguised but may lead to hurt, anger or jealousy on your partners end. You’ll recognize these traps because the questions will usually be about feelings or thoughts and they will be linked to a person. For example, “Have you done xyz” is a very different question from, “Do you still think about xyz with so-and-so?”

Tip #5 -Reap the Rewards

If you are serious about your current lover, sharing this information will allow them to know you better, while giving you and your lover a stronger bond. At MatchEdge, they’ve found that the relationships that have less secrets between them tend to be stronger than those who keep secrets.

Remember, no one can ever fault you for being honest with them. Regardless of what your sexual past holds, it’s a part of who you are. If your current lover is a keeper, they will be glad that you had enough faith and confidence in them to share such an intimate part of yourself. Good luck and happy sharing!

Debt Negotiation – How to Negotiate Your Debt to Less Than You Should Pay

One of the best ways to get out of debt is to owe less money. Wouldn’t that be nice? Wouldn’t it be nice if the credit card companies you owed money to said “that is okay, you can pay us less?” Well guess what? They aren’t going to outright suggest it themselves, but there are ways that you can do a debt negotiation; negotiate until they agree to settle for less money than what you actually owe.

Here are some helpful tips for you to get started:

Seek assistance from a professional debt negotiation company: Yes you can always try and negotiate your debt for less yourself, but this can take time, a lot of speaking to different people, and it can be a major hassle. Moreover, your case worker is likely to have years of experience; they are familiar with debt laws and they have negotiated many similar deals with credit card companies. This tends to produce the best results. Rarely does a debt negotiation company accept anything less than a 40% reduction in debt.

If you want to handle the negotiations yourself, keep these points in mind: You aren’t a professional and you are likely to make many mistakes; it is important to stay calm. It isn’t in your best interest to play the drama card too much or to erupt in a fit of rage. Debt settlement companies are successful because they are convincing and professional, you want to be the same way. If things aren’t going your way, consider playing the bankruptcy card because it does hold a lot of power.

In short, you are likely to see the highest reduction or elimination of your debt when being represented by a professional during the debt negotiation process. To find that professional company or program, let a debt relief network help by visiting their online website.

Presenting With Fire Pits

Smart business owners have a keen understanding of the things that matter. If you are going to run a sustainable business over the long term, then you will need to focus on a few key concepts. A good business will present itself well to prospective clients and other businesses. When you get a chance to showcase your products or make a pitch to some other business, it is important to put on a quality presentation. What makes a solid presentation? Preparedness, professionalism, and the willingness to use technology to your advantage are three important starting points.

Technology is your friend
Whether you are a business marketing a new fire pit or some kind of medical equipment, the simple fact remains the same. The way that you present your company will go a long way to determining if people pay attention to you. If you are willing to use technology, your presentation can take off. Audio and visual elements give prospective clients a much better idea of what you have going on. They can actually engage in the presentation, rather than just sit and watch. When they are engaged, you have a much better shot at getting your company’s point across.

The confident approach
You must know, without a shadow of doubt, that your fire pit is the best on the market. Even if there are better products out there, you must exude confidence that is readily apparent to your customers. They will take cues from you on this point. When giving a presentation, the way you carry yourself impacts perception of your message. If the audience believes that you are a good person and if they identify with your core values, then they will give your message a chance. If you lack this confidence, people will know it and your fire pit won’t get the reception that it deserves.

Ultimately, being prepared and approaching the presentation with confidence is a huge part of the battle. When you know what you intend to say and you believe in your message, people will feel that. Add in some good technology and your presentation can go from mundane to influential. The idea is to convince people and using the art of persuasion will win major points. Be excited, put your best foot forward, and chances are good that your prospective fire pit idea will receive a positive reception from those in your audience.