Presents For Christmas – Pay it Forward

As we approach the Christmas season, “the most wonderful time of the year”, we are usually overwhelmed with all that has to be done to make this Christmas the “perfect one.” Of course we know in our minds that there is no such thing as a perfect Christmas, but in hearts many of us still hold out for one.

The shopping, decorating, entertaining, baking, etc seems to get more demanding each year. For some by the time Christmas Day is close the thought is “I’ll be glad when it’s over.” There is little or no joy in our hearts; we have forgotten what we are really supposed to be celebrating-the birth of Jesus.

During the Christmas season we send and receive cards with the message “peace on earth, good will toward men, and sing carols with the same sentiment. Yet, what do we do that helps accomplish this worthy attitude? Too often we tend to think that peace is something that only diplomats and politicians can bring about. I love the line “let it begin with me” in the hymn “Let There Be Peace on Earth.”

This Christmas season could be one where we do something that would make a difference. Maybe we can’t sign a peace accord but perhaps we can make a difference in our little corner of the world. Sharing a little joy with someone may be just the place to start.

I recently read of a family, who for a number of years, have celebrated a unique version of The Twelve Days of Christmas to share their joy with. Each year they choose a family or individual to honor during this time. Then starting December 13 they wrap up a simple gift and put a line of greeting with it. They take the gift to the chosen one and leave it at the front door. They then ring the doorbell and very quickly run away.

The gift has no sender’s name on it so the recipient doesn’t know who sent it. This is repeated every night until December 24 when the sender lets the recipient know who they are. At this time they encourage the recipients, who are always delighted with what has transpired, to do the same thing for someone the next year.

There are so many things we can do to spread joy. Giving presents we purchase in a store is not the only way we can spread joy and goodwill toward our fellowmen. Often, the most important thing we can do is give our time. Many people are troubled and or lonely and just need someone who will take the time to listen to them. A simple note or card to a homebound person can brighten the dreariest December day. A smile or a friendly hello at the grocery store may be the only real communication with another person someone has all day.

The Christmas season is also a good time to mend relationships that may have gone awry. It really doesn’t matter who caused the rift, if it bothers you then you can be the one to try for reconciliation. One person can make a difference; if we are trying to spread peace and goodwill then we can sing the carols and send the cards really meaning the words.

Betsy R. Mclean loves Christmas and everything about it. She love decorating the tree and house, buying those special presents for loved ones and friends and stitching throughout the year on needlework projects that celebrate Christmas. Betsy believes that cherished Christ memories last a lifetime. Visit her site. Letters from Santa Claus [http://lettersfromsantaclaus.info/]

Creating Effective Presentations – Planning Is THE Key Ingredient

Creating effective presentations that hit the mark is a little like putting together a puzzle. The majority of professionals in the business world rely on presentations at some point during negotiations. Yet, the results are sometimes inconsistent. Some presentations clearly demonstrate the intended idea, while others leave people confused or, worse, disinterested.

How DO you make this tool work for you? One simple answer to creating effective presentations: planning.

Creating effective presentations means planning, planning and more planning. This often requires meticulous research. For business presentations, the plan should include answers to the following:

  • What point you want to make?
  • What benefits you are offering?
  • What makes you unique from your competitors?
  • What deal you are offering?
  • Why are YOU the only choice?

Good planning helps ensure that enough of your presentation sticks in the mind of your audience to support what you’re proposing at the end of your presentation. Hence, your slides should be used as props, not as running commentary. Crowded data-filled slides often result in confused minds. They pull the audience’s attention away from you and what you’re saying.

Slides should have a maximum of four lines of text or one image that represents one main idea. Always use the slide as a prop while YOU present your message.

When creating effective presentations, one important ingredient is your own conviction. If you are not sold on the idea you’re talking about, the presentation is going to fall flat on its face. The enthusiasm of someone who believes in what he or she is saying is infectious and essential when selling an idea.

Keep slides and your communication simple and clear. Whenever possible, eliminate lists and data tables. Instead, put the gist or result on the slide. The key to creating effective presentations is clarity in your communication. If you have a lot of data to share, put the details in a handout and distribute it before or after your presentation.

While we are on the subject of planning in creating effective presentations, let’s not forget about the hardware. Many presentations fall flat because the logistics around hardware was not given enough attention. Always check that Internet connectivity, computer battery, your projector, outlets and anything else you need are available and in working order. If possible, run through your presentation once to make sure there are no hidden glitches.

Follow these steps, and you’ll be well on your way to creating effective presentations.

Negotiating Credibility

One of the paramount mistakes made by less experienced and knowledgeable negotiators is that instead of approaching a negotiation from the standpoint of credibility and a win- win situation, conduct what I often refer to as “incredible” negotiating. However, when I refer to incredible in this case, I am not complimenting the individual, but rather stating that the person comes off as lacking credibility. Any negotiator that is not considered credible by the opposing side generally has a very difficult job conducting a successful negotiations.

As a professional negotiator, who has negotiated hundreds of “deals” over the last three plus decades, I have often been called in to “put out a fire,” after an amateur or inexperienced negotiator “screwed it up.” Amateurs often make false statements about the group he represents, trying to build it up hoping to improve his bargaining position. While that may work rarely under certain circumstances (only when the other side is also represented by an amateur), it usually backfires. For example, I have seen amateurs go to a hotel and considerably overstate his groups buying power, hoping to acquire better concessions, rates, etc. However, especially in the hotel business in today’s world, hotels check and “talk,” and they discover the organization’s true history, including such factors as credit worthiness, attrition versus proposed numbers, and expenditures. If a negotiator overstates these easy to find out items, the hotel will often resent and mistrust the negotiator, which almost always portends to a troubling situation.

My suggestion in any negotiation is to be “tough but fair.” Always study the opposition, and know what they can and cannot do, and where perhaps you can save them money that they could then pass along to your group in terms of additional savings or concessions. Whether the negotiation involves a labor and management issue dispute, a hotel negotiation, or any other situation, the successful and experienced negotiator always explains fully what his needs are, and comes in with his own set of priorities and must haves, as well as possible givebacks. It is essential that both sides walk away from these discussions believing they did well and that the agreement was a fair and equitable one. In many ways, the best scenario is one where the process ends up resembling a mediation, with open discussions and real brainstorming and idea sharing.

However, this is all dependent on maintaining a credible and honorable posture, and not telling lies simply to secure some often short-lived gain. There is perhaps nothing that will mess up this process more than deceit or the perception of deceit, and one’s reputation is paramount to success. My recommendation for all groups is to always maintain your reputation as being honorable, because that will keep you “in demand” in the future, by others. The credible negotiator, in the long run, always end up with the best overall agreements.